Published: September 11, 2011 3:00 a.m.
A moving, and wobbly, walk for awareness
Jaclyn Youhana
The Journal Gazette
The first thing you notice is the way they walk. The heel-toe-heel-toe movement learned as a toddler seems to have escaped these men’s minds as they clomp around, a mix between a newborn deer on too-spindly legs and a college frat boy on a Saturday night. Then you notice why they’re walking as though they’re stepping around cow pies: Then men are in all sorts of red high heels – patent leather spikes, sensible pumps, strappy sandals, slip-ons with some floof at the top band and other styles that could only be described as stripper heels.
Saturday morning, hundreds of men gathered at Headwaters Park to Walk a Mile in Her Shoes, an event sponsored by the Fort Wayne Women’s Bureau. In its fourth year, Walk a Mile puts men in red high heels and tells them to strut their stuff to raise awareness about sexual assault and rape.
“From the very beginning, it has been a well supported event,” said Jeanette Dillon, head of the women’s bureau. “When you think about it, not every guy feels compelled to put on a pair of red high heels,” but even in 2008, the event’s first year, 400 men turned up to support the cause. Dillon estimates 500 walkers participated this year, and the total amount raised has not been calculated yet. Last year, the event set a world record for number of people walking in heels with 967, raising more than $100,000.
Todd Rumsey, board chairman at Dupont Hospital, has walked all four years with his son Peter, who is now 16. An obstetrician, Rumsey said rape and rape awareness is something he deals with often.
“This is just an extension of what we do to protect the health and wellness of women,” he said. “Unfortunately, sexual violence is part of so many women’s lives.” As Rumsey talks before the walk, he is in tennis shoes – proof that he’s something of a pro at the walk. It’s easy to point out some of the first-timers; they’re already in their heels, trying to get used to walking a little taller. When it’s time to line up to start the walk, Rumsey has changed. Along with pointy-toed red patent leather shoes – the style provided by the women’s bureau – he has donned red knee-socks, dotted with teddy bears in tuxedos.
A group from Anthis Career Center walks as part of Joe Kowalewski’s criminal justice class. “They want to be police officers or work within criminal justice,” Kowalewski said of his students, who have participated every year as part of an “optional-mandatory” assignment. “You should see the guys’ faces when I tell them they’re walking in heels.”
Not all of his students did walk in heels. As the men gathered toward the starting line, three teenage boys – all Anthis students – could be seen edging to the front of the crowed. When the walk started, they shot off – running. “That’s my dorky son,” said Ami Cook, of New Haven, there to support her son and his friends. She had no idea they were planning to run the mile. They made decent time; the group was the first to cross the finish line, 8 minutes and 58 seconds later.
One of the Anthis students who raced, Brahndon Bolinger, 16, collapsed in the grass as soon as he finished with one directive: “Get them off!”
While many walked, or ran, to raise awareness or fulfill an “optional-mandatory” credit, others attended because they felt they needed to. Tim Schroeder, of Fort Wayne, a former Detroit medic, had wanted to walk for a few years. He finally worked up the nerve to sign up, bringing his 24-year-old daughter. She not only held him up in case he wobbled in his shoes but also served as an ear: He had to tell someone what he was doing. “My wife was a victim,” he said. “It was early in our marriage, and she had a situation. She was working late at night by herself in a bad area of town.” She doesn’t know that he walked Saturday morning. When he and their daughter Whitney left, they just told her, “We’re going for a walk.” Schroeder isn’t sure how he plans to tell her where he was all morning. Whitney figures she eventually will cave in and tell her mom. She’s not sure how her mom will react when she learns of their participation. “I think underneath it all, she’ll feel honored,” Whitney said.
As Schroeder neared the finish line in his red high heels, he clutched his daughter’s wrist. As he passed under the finish line banner, he reached up a hand to tap it. “There were moments that you felt really moved by what you’re seeing, by what you know,” he said after. “Sometimes, you feel like laughing. Sometimes, like crying.”
jyouhana@jg.net
Last updated: August 9, 2011 11:19 a.m.
Agency fundraiser a shoe-in
Local artists donate pieces to raise cash for Women’s Bureau
Stefanie Scarlett
The Journal Gazette
If you go
Walk a Mile in Her Shoes
What: Fundraiser for bureau’s REACT program
When: 10 a.m. Sept. 10; registration starts at 9 a.m.
Where: Headwaters Park Pavilion
Registration: $35; team discounts available; register at WomensBureau.com by Aug. 25 to reserve a free T-shirt
Not everyone can rock a pair of white, thigh-high platform boots in a size 7.
Especially when they’re covered with red, orange and blue lizards crawling around the legs.
Artist Julia Meek painted these “kick-you-know-what boots” for the third annual Women’s Bureau fundraiser, “Women’s Night of Shoes,” which starts at 5:30 p.m. Wednesday at the Landmark Centre. Guided by the themes of women, shoes and red, local artists were asked for the first time to donate pieces for the event’s auction. The local artists include Claire Ewart, Karen Moriarty, Terry Ratliff, Santa Brink, Jan McMurtry-Arnold and Caitlin Crowley.
Meek warns that any potential bidder who plans to actually wear her “Leapin’ Lizards” boots would need “a good sense of adventure and good balance.” But as an art piece, “one size fits all,” she adds. “They are a statement. They’re near a yard tall. These boots are made for walking and stomping out domestic violence,” Meek says.
And that’s the whole point.
“The bureau’s partnership with these artists gives us an opportunity to talk about violence against women in a whole new way,” says Jeanette Dillon, chief external officer of the Women’s Bureau. “I think they give a whole new perspective to the conversation,” she says.
Meek and Ewart say they were happy to help. “It’s such a worthy cause, and I like that they take a lighthearted approach to a really serious subject,” Meek says. “As a woman, a sister, a mother, I’m glad to be able to make a contribution to help women who need someone to stand up for them,” Ewart says. This event will benefit the bureau’s programs, including REACT, Women’s Enterprise and Transitions, which are housed together for the first time at the new Fairfield Avenue headquarters.
The agency also is celebrating its 35th anniversary this year.
Besides the artwork, auction items will feature a Peg Perego Ducati children’s motorcycle (with helmet), a helicopter tour of Fort Wayne, a wine dinner for six prepared in the winning bidder’s home and Vera Bradley handbags.
“Women’s Night of Shoes” is a companion event to the fourth annual Walk a Mile in Her Shoes event Sept. 10 at Headwaters Park. Last year’s walk, part of a national series to generate awareness about sexual assault and gender violence, set a Guinness World Record with 967 people racing in heels and raised more than $100,000. Male walkers don red high heels for the festive event; female walkers can wear more comfortable shoes if they choose. “It’s one of the very best events I’ve ever done,” Dillon says. “I really believe there’s something healing in that whole process.” The walk raises money for the bureau’s REACT program, which provides a 24-hour crisis hotline, free counseling for sexual assault survivors and prevention education in local schools. “Many of the people we see phone us years after they’ve been assaulted,” Dillon says. “Once we make it a safe thing to talk about, then more victims will seek help and the community, overall, will be healthier,” she says.
As they mark major anniversaries this year, two local women’s agencies are trying to diversify and recognize more role models by reaching out to men. The YWCA of Northeast Indiana is taking nominations for its fourth annual “100 Good Men” fundraiser, while the Women’s Bureau is accepting male board members for the first time in its 35-year history. Both want to recognize men’s ongoing support of the agencies and show that they are part of the solution.
The YWCA has been providing domestic violence services, in which most victims are female and most perpetrators are male, for 35 years. So it’s easy to forget that such men are in the minority, President and CEO Debby Beckman says. “There are many more men out there who are positive role models,” she says. “We’re all kind of in this together. If we all don’t recognize that family violence is unacceptable, then we’re never going to end it.” That’s why the YWCA wants to honor or memorialize local men who embody the values of the “100 Good Men Pledge,” which includes rejecting violence, empowering others and celebrating diversity. “The concept was, we focus so much on women, how can we do something that honors men – that also brings awareness – so that we’re not excluding them? We need them,” Beckman says. She hopes to reach 100 nominations this year for the first time. (Nominees don’t have to be high-profile community figures.) The deadline is Friday; download a form at www.ywca.org/fortwayne. Each nomination requires a minimum donation of $25. For the second year, the honorees will be recognized during a TinCaps pre-game ceremony, July 7. One will be selected to throw out the first pitch.
At the Women’s Bureau, discussions about adding men to the board began last summer, Chief External Officer Jeanette Dillon says. The agency had only recruited women in the past, as a response to the historical lack of female members on corporate and other major boards around the country. While men still make up the majority of such board members, there are more opportunities for women to serve these days, she says, adding that the Women’s Bureau board also wanted to become more diverse. Male candidates for board seats follow the same process as females, by completing an application and meeting with the board’s development committee, which then makes recommendations to the full board. “We connect with people who’ve either expressed an interest in joining or who we think offer the skill sets that will help round out the board,” Dillon says. The first men – representing three of 19 seats – joined this year to serve during the 2011-12 term. “Especially during ‘Walk A Mile in Her Shoes,’ the bureau saw that men of our community really wanted to show support of women,” she says. “It was a natural progression to have them show that continued support by joining the board,” Dillon says.